Children shouldn’t be given a death sentence because their parents are brainwashed by their church.
via Another Set of Faith-Healing Parents Arrested After Allowing Their Daughter to Die of a Treatable Disease.
American mothers are not “leaning in”. American mothers are not “opting out”. American mothers are barely hanging on.
via Mothers are not ‘opting out’ – they are out of options – Al Jazeera English.
Another terrific piece from YesMeansYesBlog. Subscribe. I mean it. ~ Grace
…the conduct of a child victim needs to be utterly irrelevant. The principle is simple: no matter how not-innocent a child is, no matter how much they “invite” sexual conduct, being a grown-up means having the responsibility and obligation to say, “No, that would be wrong.” If a thirteen year old lies down in Times Square naked and shouts, “won’t someone please fuck me?” all the adults have the obligation — the absolute obligation — not to. Right? And if they instead fuck a child, regardless of the invitation or provocation, they belong in prison. Is that really a radical statement?
via Taking Statutory Rape Seriously |.
This is beyond excellent. Read the whole article – it’s worth it! ~ Grace
Boys are told from a young age that whatever they do will be excused under the “boys will be boys” mantra, and that “boys will be boys” mentality leads to what I call the “boiling frog” problem of women’s sexual boundaries. I call it that because if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will jump right out, but if you put a frog into a pot of room-temperature water and slowly heat it to a boil, the frog will acclimate as it heats and never jump out, eventually boiling to death. Similarly, when we learn as young girls to tolerate “low-level” boundary violations like the ones we often are forced to suffer in silence at school, at home and on the street – bra-snapping, boob-grabbing, ass pinching, catcalling, dick flashing “all in good fun” relentless violations that adults and authorities routinely ignore – it makes it harder for us to notice when even greater boundaries are being violated, eventually leading to the reality that many women who are raped just freeze and fall silent, because that’s what they’ve been taught to do over and over since day one. You tell me what’s more infantilizing: repeatedly letting boys and grown men off the hook for their behavior because “boys will be boys” and we can’t ever expect any differently, or creating a consent standard in which all partners take active responsibility for their partner’s safety, and which acknowledges the truly diseased sexual culture we’re soaking in every day.
via The Nonexistent Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Consequences of Enthusiastic Consent |.
Lovely article. Thanks, Paloma. ~ Grace
When I asked my boyfriend to shoot these pictures, he refused. I think he didn’t want my hairy legs to be made public. He had enough with having to endure the plan (ha!). We had an interesting conversation and a few seconds later, he admitted he was wrong and agreed to take the pictures. He told me the pictures were an assault against aesthetics. I agree. They’re an assault against an aesthetic, against an image of female beauty that we have ingrained in our culture and in our society. That same image I want to change, simply because it’s not real. Women have hair on their legs. We have hair on our armpits. And on our pubis. And in a thousand other places. We’re hairy, the same as men. And that’s real. A reality that women, pressured by one another, insist on hiding.
via I Don’t Shave | Paloma Goñi.
I am SO IMPRESSED with this post. It’s a must read. ~Grace
I’ve encountered breastfeeding moms in public. Not once — NOT ONCE — have they ever ripped their shirt off and run through a crowd screaming: “Look at me! Look at this! I’m breastfeeding!!!” I’ve never seen that happen. I’m willing to bet I’ve never seen it because it’s literally never occurred in the history of the universe. I’ve also never had a young mother pull out a gun and yell: “You will watch me breastfeed or I’ll blow your brains out! WATCH OR DIE!” In other words, I’ve never been “forced” to “watch” a woman breastfeed. The way these prudes talk about it, you’d think they were being compelled to observe against their will. Personally, when I come across a woman breastfeeding, I think, “Oh OK, a mother is feeding her kid. Cool, anyway now I’ll get back to carrying on with my own existence.”
via We must stop these crazed half naked psychopaths from feeding their children in front of other people! | The Matt Walsh Blog.
Abortion is often framed as a mercy bestowed upon a woman who has committed the “crime” of having had sex. Mercy is something that someone else grants you, however, and not something you can simply decide for yourself that you deserve. That’s what people are stabbing at when they say they don’t want women to use abortion “as birth control.” The fear is that a woman might get an abortion without feeling remorseful or may, gasp, even feel like she’s entitled to it without having to apologize or grovel. Basically, people are uneasy with leaving the decision of whether or not an abortion is deserved to the woman seeking it herself. What a lot of people in the gray area between pro- and anti-choice want is for women to have to justify themselves in order to get abortions, even if it’s something as simple as making women feel ashamed of themselves for what they supposedly did wrong.
via Every Reason for an Abortion Is a Good Reason.